The Art of Distraction

Friends: This is copied from my ministerial facebook page. I have received so much input regarding this post, an energy update if you will, I thought to share it here, as a blog, along with beautifully pertinent added follow up from a beloved, as well as additional meanderings.

ADDICTION: Anything we use to distract us from ourselves. The energies of expansion through the Creators Unconditional Love are causing/forcing/bringing many – to meet themselves where their addiction is. Humans can use anything as an addiction; from drugs to shopping, to too much work, to gossip to religion, to whining & complaining to never making a decision, to whatever you may see as an addiction, what you are emotionally attached to. IT is anything we emotionally use as a crutch to NOT be in whole alignment with our Highest Selves. The Distraction. The ‘I look over here’…’not inside’. ‘I worry about them to avoid meeting myself’. We are being surrounded in a cosmic pressure cooker of Divine Light & Love in order to rid our minds and beliefs of anything that cannot be EMBODIED in/with/as our Creators Essence.

We are seeing drastic ends of the spectrum of fear & love, due to this – many are thriving from the essence of Gods Love – through forgiveness, acceptance, joy, faith, gratitude & appreciation. We now have walking Masters on earth. As well as many are meeting their most uncomfortable (dreaded) spaces. The ‘little hidden secret’ is coming alive in order to be witnessed & released in love. We cannot run from love. And, the distraction can only be released through LOVE.

Many present pretty stubborn, for their minds have never thought in terms of Oneness, Divinity, innate birthrights as a Child of God. These sister & brothers have spent years and perhaps lifetimes living from a mentality of fear and having to do life all by themselves. There is a very real to them feeling, of not knowing where else to turn, or what to do.

Let us send them love – not force our beliefs on them, but love them, from the soul to soul level. Simply be there. Suggestions may bounce off like a brick wall – so simply, faithfully & deeply love them. See them spinning in the cosmic facets of the Mind of God and say: May they know Your wisdom God, your Love & Peace. May they find you as themselves, deep within their energy body, may they feel & experience Your Holy Presence, in order to fulfill their heart centered joys. Amen & Amen.

(Follow up from a Beloved/ shared with permission, & creatively changed for privacy & understanding)

“Still working on my work addiction. Even at work, I made changes. I used to get very mad when I could saw others not doing their work. Now, I am practicing not getting mad and not acting out of anger. I did say no to some overtime this month. Still I see how I work too much. When I looked at myself as a work addict, there was no difference between me and my clients. In doing some yard work, I found another meditation besides cleaning! “

I received this from a beloved/student. So, so happy for her! This woman works in a halfway house and is now seeing how imbalanced her life was in working overtime every week, many times over 30 days in a row….and when she was home, she cleaned, cleaned, cleaned…and never saw this as a way of ignoring her own personal responsibility to Self before this article & our last healing session – as an ‘issue’.   In working with addicts, she now see’s how one particular relationship with a guest reflects her own cycle of personal distraction & imbalance. 

As humans, we are Masters at logically thinking (and talking) …JUSTIFYING – our way away from taking responsibility for our own distraction/addiction; that which prevents us from looking inside ourselves and seeking our own balance and knowing of Spirit. 

When we take responsibility for everything being a reflection of what is within ourselves, we spiritually mature and no longer re-act emotionally, as well as know the only thing that needs to change is our own thinking; take the internal route to peace!

Shared with great love, in hope to inspire. 

Deborah –

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The Longing to Belong

Yesterday the word belonging came to me, a Divine idea, dropped into my field for my own contemplation of what it means to ‘belong’.  I am unsure that this feeling can be anything but felt, that words can describe it. As with love, or the smell of a rose, and other spiritual gifts; the feeling of belonging is wordless. Yet, when one FEELS it, experiences it, it is undeniable. 

The feeling of belonging fills us, as it is love which makes us feel this. To belong is part of our innateness –  without belonging we feel the lie of separation.  And when we are in relationship (a person, a marriage, a church family, a family unit, a job, a career) –  and then not, for whatever reason our ‘you do not belong’ button is activated, hearts are broken open. 

This longing to Belong may just be what drives us to do – anything, good for us or not. The heart, mind, body experience of  “I belong here” as well as “I do not belong here”  is deep, palpable, rich in opportunity. 

So many say, I do not belong in this family. Or, you are wonderful, kind, loving – but I do not feel I belong with you. And then on the other end of the spectrum is the – in a glance, we know, we belong together. 

Anything can make us feel the expression of BELONGING; a spiritual community, a family, a street gang, a club, work. Does it come down to; oh, here there are others like me….and  I know the vibration of belonging? I am aligned with this, with them, with all of this here….I have found my tribe, my place, where my heart is home. I belong.

Does it come down to the seed of Love & loving?

We cannot force belonging. Many times it sneaks up into your heart and one day you simply, know – no doubts, a feeling of ease, grace, comfort. 

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Years ago I lived in a beautiful seaside city filled with creative vibrancy and many diverse places & spaces to belong. In conversation one day with one of the pillars of the theater community, where I came & went from, I joyfully shared; “I feel welcomed in so many places & groups here, but belong no where”.  Another words, in conversation I would not be associated with any of them, but welcomed whenever I showed up. I have never been a soul who hooked into ONE place, clique or group. My birth family once told me I was obviously “restless”.  I smiled, and let it go; rigid cannot understand fluid, contained cannot see the un-contained, the box has sides and views are blocked.  I have been very happy being me for a quite a while now……………..

Yesterday I did feel I belong. It is in my marriage, and our home and land and space we  settled on five years ago. I have loved many other spaces, taken care of and adored; yet this is the first time I felt I belonged. Now, I understand wanting to belong as well as the devastation the lack of it can conjure in ones heart, if one needs this. I always belonged – my faith roots are deep and because I knew I belonged in my love of God and all that means to me, I could float around, here & there, seeing God in all places – yet now, this, this feeling is a human belonging; with my husband, our home and our life. 

shared with love, with the hope to inspire,



Palpable Emptiness

I awoke this morning aware of missing God. Is this even possible? No. It is not. We are made of the Creator, live in, with and are part of the Creator. God is omnipotent, omnipresent, omniscient. We are Divinity in form. What is this emptiness I touched upon, this vacancy, I was aware of? It felt just like when people speak of missing a loved one who has died, moved to another state, are on vacation – for a brief moment there was a palpable emptiness, an unusual void, an uncomfortableness I had never been aware of before.

As a minister & healer I am often brought to spaces of fear or lack to experience what it is like for others – it does not last long, or at least until I ‘get’ what I am to understand from the experience – which is always the same thing; a palpable understanding through the experience of, in order to create authentic compassion & empathy within me. 

These moments change me beyond anything of intelligence or of the pure ego mind thinking possibly could. The seed of the feeling my beloveds may be trying to express to me in a counseling moment is now not just words to me, but a real, thriving thing I can, as a human, relate to, know and feel. God has created these opportunities through me since I learned of the Silent Prayer, (a tool for healing) committed to it as a key to energetic empathy medicine for the healing of others. (The previous learning experience of empathy was in early March when I jumped on the gerbil wheel of fear & down the rabbit hole regarding a physical symptom. I had NEVER, EVER in my life experienced that before. I have always, no matter how anything looked, KNEW I was healthy, safe, okay, would be fine, would heal easily from whatever the label, from whatever a doctor said, from how ever it looked or appeared. It took a few days, and not until I GOT IT, until I FELT the moment of TRUE empathy for others who come to me in fear of a medical label, did the unknown pain I was having literally leave my body. As a God sister and I were on the phone and she asked me why do you have this……..I GOT it. The heavenly lightbulb went off in my mind and BOOM! – When I GOT, EMPATHY for others…IT left my belly and in that Holy instant; I understood.) 

When these guided teaching moments take place I am left with FAR more, filled – up more, increased more – in my personal God awareness. Emptiness no longer exists.

So, this emptiness I felt this morning; what did it represent for me? WHERE WAS I NOT FEELING ‘GOOD ENOUGH’? Where was I blaming more self, going against myself, where was I not showing up in my faith? Where was I not expressing love? Was I filling that well, as ALL my students have heard me say numerous times, in sitting with God? The reason we meditate, sit with God, with OUR awareness of Spirit each morning, is to develop this very personal, palpable & positive relationship with God, so we KNOW God. Was I being true to my own covenants? In this emptiness I also became acutely aware of flashes of when we are not being aware of God: when we blame, speak unkindly, are impatient, fall off whatever wagon we want to stay on, miss an opportunity to GIVE, listen, or love. Oh, THAT is emptiness! WE create it in our own personal & palpable lack of RECOGNITION of GOD! Yesterday a woman I know (have not seen for years, never a ‘close’ friend) – posted a fundraiser for help with moving costs. I instantly got my card, my checkbook, and donated to bring it over her requested amount. This was a HUGE moment of no resistance, just utter joy in supporting one another in this life experience. My ministerial mentor taught me this; always give others an opportunity to GIVE, it is a gift.  

When we bring our relationship with Holy Spirit into our DAILY lives; not just when we sit, or just when we go to church, or just when we are in Yoga class, or JUST when we go to the ashram on a vacation – when we make a commitment to God, a covenant to KNOW God, this is every cell of our being we are talking about – not just when we feel like, or just when WE think it is needed, or just when we want to ask for help – knowing God takes up all of ourselves. 

Years ago I did mentoring of ministerial students and when a person came to me for the first time, I would say to  them; do not say yes to the ministry unless you are being literally pulled, like the hook from the old burlesque movies pulling you off stage… not say yes unless you are okay with being turned inside out and have a sense of walking in integrity ALL THE TIME. As we all know, there are too many people who do not walk their talk – so, if you are wanting to be a person who spreads the word of hope and love through faith with others, if you are wanting to be a teacher of God, be prepared to be put through a magnificent holy ringer – and know that when you maintain your faith & integrity you will be stronger and more  loving than you ever saw possible, and if you do not, you will fall like you cannot even imagine. So, do you wish to continue? 

The Divine Architects’ set up of this magnificent world always lets us know when we are not remembering Love. We simply do not feel good. We are NOT seeking joy. When we are not sharing, not being kind, tolerant, giving – when we are not doing our very best as children of the Divine we feel wretched. When we believe in illness more than health, in anger more than patience, in shutting ourselves off more than showing up….when we are listing to people more than God.  We have, as us, the potential for SO MUCH, and when we go against ourselves, which IS going against God; we feel it. And, when we have made a commitment before God, and God is witnessing every commitment we make, and we do not live up to it, when we act other than – discomfort is the signal; emptiness is deafening. 

I share this with great Love.



The Redefining of JOY.

The other day I posted this comment on my personal FB page: “How would your life be different if joy was your priority?”  Many liked & loved, yet this was the only comment: My belief is that our culture is overly wrought with the attainment of joy and happiness. And it spawns so much dissatisfaction, discontent, materialism, and unhappiness. My goal is acceptance, equanimity, and peace. When I am present in this way, contentment follows and often joy, but I would not say they are the priority. When I made joy a priority so much of my self was compromised in that quest.”

For the foundation of this interaction, I do know this person who wrote this comment and we have worked together twice, but she is not an active part of my ministry. I instantly admired her strong voice and ability to state her beliefs, and they reflect what I felt was a very different expression than mine. I chose to not comment on her comment. My experience is to let conflicting comments be, and input keeps it going. For me, it always works into an experience I wish I never fed. I respect her, I love her, we each have our own eyes. These conflicting moments, (for me) are the crossroads as I refer to them, are where we grow, expand and come to know ourselves more deeply. After I recognized my gut felt suckered punched, (someone disagrees with me!! oh my!! My ego!!) I went into my own heart and asked why. I first saw that perhaps this comment I made was better suited for my ministerial page. Then I said no, joy is joy. And then it hit me; we even have to redefine the word joy. 

I still go for joy. We each, as we know, only see through our own eyes and I can only guess what her perspective is. I only know my own. For me, joy is of God. 

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Many (!!) years ago a God Sister gave me a holiday card with this quote on the front. I still have it. Taped above my kitchen sink. A little worn, and in my face each day. 

I see joy & happiness as two totally different experiences and vibrations. Happy is fleeting. It comes from an exterior experience of either validation from another or a material venue. These, are in the shallow end of the pool, momentary, short lived, no roots. 

I see joy has having depth, deep roots. I seek the joy of God, my spiritual quest  – in prayer, in witnessing others, in walking beloveds home, in supporting minds, hearts and bodies to heal, in authenticity. I seek to be aware of the deep, palpable feeling of the Presence of Holy Spirit in my body every moment, the moments that either breathe deeply or actually take our breath away. Can we live there? I do not think so. BUT, we can expect them, seek them, intend them, look for them. 

I think of the whirling Dervish……and the blissfulness reached as they dance for God. Image result for picture whirling dervishI believe that when we reach for joy with God as our compass, absolutely nothing is compromised, material, selfish or shallow – all is peaceful, accepting & loving. 

JOY is the inner feeling one has. I can have it in a silent moment smiling with a stranger. JOY is the palpable experience of our innate GOD awareness through love.

She is correct, the comment author, My belief is that our culture is overly wrought with the attainment of joy and happiness. And it spawns so much dissatisfaction, discontent, materialism, and unhappiness.”  Looking for love in all the wrong places, when ones search for joy brings about anything but the palpable awareness of God.

shared with love to all & gratitude to my well spoken friend.



Listen Deeply

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Listening deeply is truly a spiritual practice/art form. I find it takes not only a daily practice – it also takes discernment and trust. Especially when we are being challenged with life cosmic uprisings and wanting desperately to ‘do’ the ‘right’ thing, take right action.

I am a seasoned meditator, pray-er and woman of faith. AND still, when uprisings take place, when I find myself at a crossroads of fear or love; I sink in and listen. Let’s see..the ego or the heart? God or my own way is speaking? What am I hearing???? 

Recently I have had the calling to listen deeply as a loved one of mine is in crisis. When I sit with a client; all is clear, messages flow, only hearing Spirit is practiced, easy and clear. AND I am human and my family is made up of humans (!) , and all journeys have bumps. 

The very clear recent directives/message for me has been  – stay out of it, stand back, let them walk it, they know you are here, they will find you when they are able, do not push, let the storm pass, it is their storm not yours, stay out of it. 

I have no doubt, through my faith & discernment this is profoundly clear. In fact, it is an all around message for me right now; do not push, let them come to you – who ever they are – they know you are here, they know you, if they want you, they will get you. 

Hearing, listening and trusting Spirit is not always comfortable. Yet, the wild animal kingdom has also guided me clearly – by coming onto our yard and starring right at me – and my grandmothers are in my dreams reminding me they are behind me, with me and hiding space of support. And yesterday I just HAD to buy one of those whirly – thingys for our yard, after looking at them ALL last year!  I did not like the colors they had displayed outside, (wanted purple) and after asking the owner he said he had one inside he could not describe, and that was it, I took it home. Gold, purple, shimmering. He asked where was I putting it and i said ‘on our lamppost near the road, I need to clear and also welcome and draw new energies’. I got it home, them took the tag off of it; it is called  “The Double Cosmic Rainbow”.  (So, as I am writing this the words are  red – and will not change!!!!!)

My point is we have to trust. When we are faithful, when we practice, when we listen deeply, when we discern; we then have no choice but to trust, whether we like it or not. I want to step in and fix it all!  And no, I cannot, I will not. I will allow others journeys and know the God within them and see them in the Light & Love & embrace of Holy Spirit; and wait. Impatiently, but I will wait. 

shared in Love,


a strong core.

No, not Pilates…..a strong spiritual core. I strong spiritual core, even this, can look different to many, as all of life’s experiences can. A strong spiritual core is always unwavering strength, even in the midst of chaos. In the most general perspective, it is knowing that God has this, whatever it is. And in the most personal sense, it is having built up such a strong core through your spiritual journey of faith, that you have developed faith in your own knowing, own personal relationship with God, with how the universe works – in spiritual law – that you never re-act to outer perceptions, (what you see), for your own inner core is the only reflection you see. 

Some people ‘error think’,  in seeing a strong spiritual core as stubborn, holding fast, denial. This is incorrect. A strong spiritual core allows you to NOT entangle emotionally with anyone, yet love unconditionally at the same time.  

A strong spiritual core comes from daily meditation, times of devotion & study which feeds your inner well, the well where your very personal relationship with Holy Spirit resides. 

A strong spiritual core allows you to respond, not react – as in no arguing, no re-act-tion. No voice raising. (No feeding the beast.) All of this is due to needing another person to change in order for you to feel better.  You are trying to force another person to hear you, therefore entangling emotionally and adding to the chaos. This is NOT where better takes place.  In fact, only chaos comes from this need. The only place any improvement takes place is within your own mind & heart, then it is reflected.  

When you come from your core, a core of faith, your are able to stand firm in faith in your own choices.  Mind you, this core is NOT about manipulation or force, in fact, it is all love

When we stand in equanimity, we surrender to the idea that another must change. We surrender to acceptance. Acceptance calms the chaos. Acceptance is part of the inner core, yet can only be reached through faith in a Higher Power we walk with. 

After almost thirty years of walking this path consciously and a life time of experience, it has become excruciatingly clear, that those who do not have a Higher Power concept, a relationship with the Universal Presence of Good – suffer. I realize this sounds rash – it does to me, and yet, I see this as true. The label does not have to be God – but the surrender to Universal Law and having personal experience with good is. 

My husband call himself the most irreverent person he knows, (dumbfounded he is married to a minister!) – YET, his relationship with kindness IS his path. He puts kindness first; through his humor, lightness, actions and words. To me, I see him as a very Holy person, one whose kindness directs him – and due to this, he does not entangle emotionally. He stands core firm in kindness, in loving, in love. He puts kindness first, despite what anyone else is doing. 

Mind you, a strong core does not mean you do not need to walk away, sometimes. It actually can give you the strength to walk away. It means you know without doubt you have done all you are able, shown up as you are able, shared what you are able – you are firm in your core – and you no longer entangle. This may even mean you stay – you simply are no longer ‘dancing with the devil’ – you are standing  firm in good & love, nothing causes you to break. Nothing as in another person’s opinion, or their fears, or their voice, or their choices. 

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shared with love, in hopes to inspire & quench –



Gerbil Wheels & Rabbit Holes.

Morning time, the time to open to the Holiness of life. 

The earth life is filled with opportunities for gerbil wheels and rabbit holes.  Fear can be given attention and we are on our way on or down. Much like dodging holes in the street while driving, in order to not pop a tire or set our cars alignment out of balance – we must do what we can to avoid the pitfalls of our mind thinking.

All health is mental health. Feed it the very best.

I am a teacher, advocate and hopefully example of; first thing in the morning meditation time, time of devotion, time of centering, time of focusing on love — heart time. THIS IS Spiritual PracticeThis is the time of feeding the well – so gunk doesn’t fill it up! Time to forgive ourselves and others, to uncling, let go and focus on LOVE & LOVING. Our heart muscle is the strongest muscle we have – its Divine, magnificent radiance spreads far & wide. WE GET THERE THROUGH OUR THINKING. This Holy time alone in the morning before we touch the day envelopes us in a resonate field of love, and enables (supports) us to see the day and all its experiences through a lens of love, forgiveness and delight in the play of life, as well as draw to us like experiences. 

This is not new to probably anyone reading this – and yet, I know no one who does not need to do this each day. I do not care if you have been a teacher of spirituality for 50 years, or you are a reincarnated Lama- we must spend time in devotion each day – to avoid the rabbit holes. (Be a student, always.) We must spend time internally with our own heart centers, no matter our labels, our experiences, no matter how many followers we have, how many best sellers, how many students, how big the house, how many mountains we have climbed – none of that or other or anything else matters. We must get out of our heads, stop looking externally for any quick fixes no matter the labeland go within. 

You know anyone who is not registered to vote, yet they complain about politics? Well, if you are unhappy or dissatisfied with your life and you are NOT committed to a time of devotion each day………well, what must you do?

This is as necessary as feeding your body healthy food, putting high grade oil in your car,  choosing the best gasoline to run on – feed your mind healthy thoughts.  Every experience comes from our thoughts. As we practice our morning Holy time, like practicing the piano, we grow our faith in the Power of Love, of Life, in the Universe – more & more, wider & wider, deeper & deeper. We will begin to respond to the day and life through OUR own perceptions, rather than RE-ACT to anything out side of us. Our Holy core is strong! Our hearts are radiating strength & power of Love. 

As we think – we feel, as we feel – we radiate and as we radiate – we create. 

What are you creating?

with Love, Deborah

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name change.

Hello – First off, to anyone who reads this blog and according to numbers they give me it is a quite a few- I thank you for joining with me in this journey of life, living, sharing, faith, authenticity & love. There would be no reason to write publicly unless others were reading! Any good here is a collaboration, for sure. You are deeply appreciated. 

I have changed the name of my blog from revdebblog to THOUGHTS. . And the tag line as well – offering guidance, experience & support through our awakening journey.  This is a reflection of all the changes I am experiencing combined with respect to  the fact, we each have different thoughts about one thing – and is that not all we can possibly ever share? I never want to claim to be an expert on anything except myself. But, I do have experience; broad, wide & insightful – and I am a woman of deep faith, so the combination creates me – and I share that, I do hope authentically, passionately & with humor. I am not only a minister – and what is that truly, but one who ministers to others as so many people do –  I am a woman, a wife, a mother, a writer, a painter, an artist,  a creator, a reality maker, a designer of life, a spiritual midwife, a tree lover, a connector, a gardener of flowers & other pretty things, a woman who knows what she likes, knows what she believes in – a human. I do what I love; I get to empower, guide, support, share what I call God’s Grace. This is a tremendous blessing in life, I never, ever take it for granted.  

I believe in bringing ones faith in a power greater than i into our every day living, all of it.  There is no ‘just Sunday’ with me. If we are faithful in love, then we are faithful in love! No matter where we are or what the circumstances. I promise you, I call myself on this every day and expect myself to live it, fully & out loud.  

These changes are about a softening, a means to more inclusion & collaboration, as well as deeper connection.  I love writing & sharing – and according to my clients, it is very helpful – so, for now, I will continue to do so.

New names are power filled. Think about marriage – to take or not to take, perhaps to combine…? The change shifts our vibration. Rev. Deb vs. Deborah vs. Deb vs. Debbie (who left the building decades ago,yet her photo remains. below.)  Revdebblog vs. THOUGHTS. Most people call me Deborah or Deb.  I love my Buddhist given name, Dechen. Maybe one day I WILL morph into holding the vibe of it completely. I hope.  It means the Blissful One. I tried once, but was not there yet. 

Welcome to THOUGHTS.  Offering guidance, experience & support through our awakening journey. 

with much love & appreciation,


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STOP age assuming, please.

Every now and then, no matter how faith filled we are, venting feels good. Not AT anyone, just in sharing. My thing is I have a few pet peeves – a few. (I want the toilet seat LID  put down after you use it.) Many I forgive instantly, then others hang on like a – (i have no idea what to put in here)and require prayer………..they just keep popping up. I know they do, ONLY because they bother me – I am the creator of my experiences and if I did not care so much, they would not thrive. And yet, I care……… I have this one that has been on the surface lately –  let me share. (And thank you!)

I went for a main stream (rare, last one was years ago) physical last month and the first question was: other than ‘the usual’ aches and pains do you have any complaints? So, right off the bat I wanted to have an in depth conversation about term and usage of THE USUAL. Why oh why are you seeing the bodies aches & pains as USUAL?! Why oh why can you NOT see that as we age, there is NO USUAL, yet why do you expect the aches & pains? Why are you starting out this experience in such a negative vibe? If there ARE aches & pains, they are NOT usual and the body CAN come into balance. How dare you expect, just because I am of a certain age and my hair is gloriously white, that I will, of course, because it is ‘usual’, have aches and pains?????  Ye’ of little faith in the perfectly designed human temple.


On the same note, yesterday I did walk in at the hair salon. I liked the new woman and asked if she was free.

Not for an hour, but you can come back then.

Okay, I will. Thank you.

Would you like a card to remember?

REALLY !!!!!!!?????????????????????????? Are you joking? Do I really LOOK like i cannot remember ONE HOUR from now?  

Before I went back I shifted my energy, forgave her ignorance, (she was ONLY trying to be kind !!!!)…. reminded myself I had been told by Spirit to walk in to this salon this morning, to TRUST that…..also I had liked her as I had watched her work on another haircut….and got into a great space – and yes, she gave me a great cut. 


Here are more: DO NOT call me ‘dear’. Not a waitperson, a clerk or anyone. It is condescending, rude and unkind. 


DO NOT ask me if I want the senior discount. I cannot believe stores do this. I KNOW they think they are being kind, thoughtful and giving the people who they ASSUME cannot afford full price a break, but YOU ARE NOT! Can you not simply put a sign up at the end of the aisle, or on your entrance doors; Tuesday, all over 60 receive 10% off, just ask! And let those who wish to receive this discount be the ones who LET YOU KNOW. Empower others, do not pity.  (Because of my white hair I was in my forties the first time I was asked. Poor clerk.)


I can no doubt make you spin with all I get done in a day and how strong I am, so PLEASE STOP ASKING ME HOW HEAVY TO FILL MY GROCERY BAGS!  IF you see someone who you feel may need lighter bags, JUST DO IT. AND all I have is white hair – no cane, no help shopping, I am in your store a few times a week…….alert up people! And for the record I have pretty good skin with not many lines, so stay alert!!!


Once a grocery clerk, very condescendingly, (in one of those sicky sweet tones which also fire me up) asked me if I ‘remembered’ my phone number to enter for my discount. (arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh) Really? Do I look to you, that you assume I  have memory loss? If she had added ‘dear’ to the question I may not have held back. 


Here are some ideas for t-shirts:

“If you call me dear I may bite your head off”.

“I’ve had white hair since I was 18, watch your assumptions.”

“Human respect, not condescension.”

“Think before you speak.” (an all around good one!)


And I feel the possibility that as I turn 65 next week, I may begin my next career as stand up comedian; vocally encouraging the strength, courage, resiliency, beauty, awesomeness and privilege of aging. Tickets will include a  t-shirt.

Thank you! (And freely share!) 

Deborah Evans Hogan. Born April 4, 1954.

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“Me & God”

Image result for mr rogers quotes   Recently, I have been aware of the possibility of one feeling overwhelmed with all the spiritual teachers, books, words, prayers, ideas and guidance anyone can see in any given day.  (Whew!) Very aware of all the face book messages, people I am friends with, ideas, suggestions, etc. I have been one of those teachers since 1992 – no matter what I chose ‘to do’ or how I chose to show up, whether it is here right now writing this, or my former television show, being with a client, or offering a workshop…no matter what it was (my experience is varied!) or is – always, always, always; God comes first, God paves the way, my faith is ignited in intention; no matter how it looked or looks on the outside. 

I intentionally ‘be’ with this knowing lately, seeing it all lead to one place only – the combination of our personal relationship with God and how we are in this life due to that.  

With all the paths we can choose to ‘enlighten’ & ‘awaken’ ourselves, which can also mean, I just want to feel better, do better, be better…..perhaps the simple question is; are you a good neighbor? Yes, friends, Mr Rogers had it.

I speak often that my work has been to help others remove the husks from their seeds. The seed being their GodSpark, their innate cosmic-ness, that gets covered up with fears and blinders and ego; the perceived messiness of humanness. Can it be simplified to simply being a good human, a kind human, a loving human; yes, it can. Can we just strip away all the foo-foo ness, all the fancy labels, all the constructs we design for self importance and simply be a good neighbor, no matter where we stand or who our neighbor is. Can we just be nice? 

Can we let go of all the fancy rituals, expensive workshops, all the stuff we make up, gloriously so…… and let it come down to our own actions, our own self responsibility, our own feelings of kindness. Do we REALLY have to travel to know God? Don’t you want to feel God anyplace you stand? Don’t you want to really, really embody that ALL ground is Holy ground? Do you really have to travel across oceans to feel sacredness? Do we really think that Spirit is there and not here? 

The other day a beloved said to me, after sharing the question of why her family was (still) treating her with what she sees as less than respect, “Deborah, I thought that if I studied all I have, read all the books, traveled, became a minister,  did this and that….that it would change that.” – Which led our conversation to feeling the word of God, not just reading it, or preaching it.  Perhaps theology vs spirituality. And definitely about shifting our interior, not only the exterior; the outer learning is the way in, the inner awareness is the way through.

F-E-E-L. Feel that which cannot be seen and let it thrill you! Let the vibration shake open your heart and FEEL Spirit. One of my favorite places to go is churches, the really old ones, the ones where hundreds have sat before me…and be the only one there, and FEEL the essence in the space. And, in a really, really good moment, I can feel THAT anywhere. I can sit on the park bench, and feel the trees, the light of day, the essence & vibration of the holy ground of God – and the spark is lit.

Sit and feel IT, then get up and go. 

So, I have a big birthday (huge, momentous, OMG, how did I get here!)  coming up, no doubt why so much introspection these days…. and having been totally committed, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, to this path, now for 27 years, and in slowing down some, not having idea where I will land, I do know this:  We MUST feel our way to God. We MUST see our role in our daily lives of what is around us and take 100 % responsibility for our responses and actions. No, not always easy. And yes, always possible. We must come to learn that life is about ‘me and God’ first; then, we simply go about our day. 

Thank you for joining me here,