The Prayer of ‘Okay’

In my morning journaling  my stream of thoughtlessness writing began: I am okay, it is okay.  It has evolved into this prayer – so important to repeat and say out-loud so you can feel & hear it. So much human pain & discomfort comes from feeling less than – for thinking and believing the lie that we are not enough. May your day be blessed with Divine Okayness

” I am okay. It is okay for me to dream. It is okay for me to want, to desire, to intend. It is okay for me to want more abundance, even great wealth. It is okay for me to want to change, to see things differently than everyone else, than my family, than my spouse. It is okay to dress as I wish and appear strange to others. It is okay that I am empowered, that I feel good about myself, formidable and strong. It is okay to feel attractive, to know I am smart, to dream of new. It is okay to follow my dreams, to think outside the box, to know what I want – and to achieve it. It is okay to believe in health, in magic, in the non-physical of life. It is okay for me to see what others may not, to speak of new ideas, to encourage love. It is okay for me to believe in God, to know God, to believe in healing, in angels and all which is Divine. It is okay for me to co-create all which I can desire, dream & wish for. It is okay for me to believe in you even when you do not. It is okay. I am okay. I am so okay, that you too can believe whatever you want. It is okay for me to be me! And so it is!” 


A Tough Love Memo

Too often what brings someone to therapy or counseling is their concern over another person’s behavior, and wanting to know how to change them, so they themselves can be happier. If only that was the way it worked! Alas, no, you have to do the work, your own work. 

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Tough Love #1. “I am the center of my world.”

It is never about the other person. Never. Until you get honest with yourself, see yourself with compassion and clarity, in order to make different choices, in order to show up differently in whatever experience it is – things will not change, your relationships will not change, you cannot live a different life or life differently; until you change. You cannot change until you are willing to listen and hopefully hear suggestions & ideas, then choose to try one. Your life will not change until you change your thinking. It is never about the other person being different, or the other person not doing that or not doing this or to stop saying that or for not listening to you in order to act differently so you will feel better.  It is never about the other person. It is not about your boss, your parent, your child, your spouse. It is always about you. 

Tough Love #2. “You reap what you sow.”

In order to be fulfilled, happy and have an opportunity to live an evolved life; you must care enough about your life to care deeply about your thoughts. In caring deeply about your thoughts, you exponentially care deeply about life. In caring about your thoughts, you care about what you read, listen to, converse about, speak, say; you value what you give your attention to. 

Tough Love #3.  “Nothing you seek is outside yourself.”

If you are looking at everyone else as having an issue, a problem, judging them, worried about them; etc. You are not looking at yourself. This is avoidance. Remember, it is about you. You are using them as an excuse to not look within yourself, to not unpack your own emotional baggage.

We can only do our own work, no one can do it for us. And in turn, we cannot do another person’s work for them.

Shared with tough love, Deborah

balancing acts……

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The goal of balance has always called me, even before I consciously walked a path of what we call spirituality. The idea of it, of balance, many times wondering if it is even attainable. Recently I have been considering its’ existence on an intentionally spiritual level of life. 

True balance is found at the deep end of the pool. (or is it? or do we have to go there and then see-saw back around?) It takes an elevated level of perception in order to allow balance. Here we are, reading and quoting very nice spiritual truths, but, can we live them?

“I am entitled to speak my truth.”  – “I found my voice!” – “I am an empowered woman.” – Okay, each feels positive, good and let us say, spiritually fruitful – AND, do we allow others the same ‘truth’? Do we allow it without judgment, regret, shame and anger? 

We cannot live fully the teaching ‘do not take anything personally’, and then whine that someone hurt our feelings, or we are worried about someone or they cannot do that, it is unhealthy. We cannot only give ourselves the freedom to speak freely without allowing others – if so, it is not a truth, or a law, it is from ego, from special, from self righteousness. 

Seeking balance in our thinking,  gives us our perceptions, which lays the foundation for our actions – for how we live, show up, experience life.

When someone we love retreats, do we allow them, or do we chase them? Do we teach & preach that retreating into ourselves and diving deep is a ‘good’ thing – then when a loved one does, we worry? Do we take blame & responsibility for not being good enough because we cannot help them – or the reason that they refuse or cannot  accept our help?

When we strive to take responsibility for ourselves, as much of an awakened path is, do we also offer others the same gift? Balance. When we do not do this, we feel wretched. It goes against ourselves. 

I feel there is a fine line of finding the balance of being human and awakening to one’s Divinity. And perhaps this is the issue; we keep separating them, making the human part less than. How can we do this? The human part IS DIVINE! 

During this season of summertime we are in right now where I reside, people are outdoors basking in ones humanness and it feels great! Boating, swimming, water sports, eating out, hiking, laughing, kayaking, being in nature in ones full glory of being human. It is always a beautiful sight. The light shines bright upon ones joyous face. 

The balance between what we may call our humaneness and our Divinity is a fine line. Shining and being in joy in ones humanness could very well be the most beautiful expression of our divinity. Is that not when you feel most alive? 

The spiritual path can be such an intellectual path – a path of striving. Perhaps that depth also requires the truth of ‘let it go, let it be’; is required for the peacefulness of balance to come to revelations in ones’ life expression  & experience. 

Could it all be as simple as; YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE UNIVERSE, LIVE IT AS SUCH!!! And we have to go from the shallow to the deep, then find our way back to Center. True freedom in the holy balance. 

Perhaps after years of striving, one is forced to simply let it all go – and when they come up for air, balance has been found.

with great love,




I did not write this. I am sharing this with full credit to the channel/author because it is vital, important for those who have been experiencing the emptying out, as I call it.  Find Terry thru this link below.


“Our bodies are changing and we are going through extreme releasing so that more light can enter our cells, and other previous dormant, or what scientists believe as junk DNA can activate. As our old karmic imprints are being burnt away by the sacred fires of alchemy, higher light is able to enter because of these purifying fires. It’s been quite a whirlwind as these new energies are infiltrating.

We are all feeling the many subtle changes going on around us and within our bodies and this will continue to happen so that our energy has time to adjust to the new frequencies being transmitted down, helping us to not only clear the old blockages, but to integrate the very new rays that have new signature patterns.
Many are feeling the battle wounds of this and are feeling incredibly tired and spent. As the frequency rises it may be hard to see the benefits yet and easy to lose sight that progress is being made at all.

We are all going through a cleanse of eliminating toxins and emotional dross that have slowly built up over many lifetimes. Solar flares will continue to be released amplifying and helping us in upgrading our DNA, shifting our vibrational frequency. Heightened sensitivities, electrical surges and buzzing through the body, heightened sensitivities to sound and energy. Muscle cramps and heat flashes that are connected to the releasing of kundalini energy moving through the body. Sleep disturbances and a need for more stillness and quietness.

Dizziness, unexplained flu-like symptoms, feeling lethargic and headachy, and brain fog for no apparent reason. Feelings of exhaustion and burnout and the Thymus fluttering, heart palpitations as the heart charkra awakens like a sleeping giant stirring, are all indications of the change. Our life force readjusting as gentle waves of light moves through us. These unpleasant symptoms will pass as our vibration continues to rise and we correct ourselves and release the energy blockages and distortions we have been carrying around.
These internal adjustments are here to attune us and clear away the inner pollution we have been carrying.

The more we can continue to process our shadow selves and the more we tend to the house where spirit lives the more effortless our transition will be and the more light can enter. We really are like baby switchboards learning to plug in to many more circuits that previously were not available to us. We can only handle a certain amount of energy at a time running through us otherwise we would literally blow our circuits. Our job is to be open to working the amount of increased voltage that is coming in.

We are opening up to the lines of extra-sensory communication that hasn’t been previously available to us. For this to be done successfully our spiritual, emotional, physical and mental bodies must be purified.”

– Terri Morehu excerpt from The Age of Unity

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Rule #1.  Say Yes to yourself, about yourself. Do not be afraid to be strong, to know what you want, to state a decision, to stand by your values, to listen to your gut, to dream freely, to expect good, to live freely, to be rich, to like yourself, to make choices for yourself, to surround yourself with love, to anticipate joy each day, to stand out in a crowd, to be different, to believe in health, to love Jesus, to believe in God, to know you are a creator, to allow others their own choices, to stand firm, to be courageous, kind and tolerant, to walk by yourself, to be different than the rest of your family, to love who you love, to be called crazy, delusional and special, to adore life, to be capable, to love everyone and need no one, to do an excellent job, to create with passion, to speak your own terms, to allow without judgement, to hugs trees, to lay in bed all day, to believe in miracles, to leave relationships……………….to create your own life…… be YOU. 

with enormous love,

Deborah Evans Hogan