Self Care

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I have been publicly offering my gifts since 1992, when I opened an art gallery, (which even unbeknownst to my own intentions!) was my first healing center. In the first 6 months I did not sell any art, but, people came, and came and kept coming back….and sitting and talking and staying. After I took my first ‘official’ course on healing, a small space was created in the back of the 1000′ sq. ft. space, and my ministry of healing was born until it took over the entire space. That gallery was a beautiful, power-filled bridge to myself and for many others. 

Since first seeing clients in 1992, I have an ongoing list of metaphysical/spiritual seeds which are the core of many illnesses. Another words, what is the seed, the original seed of our mental/emotional/physical non-alignments, another-words, what got me out of balance in the first place?  

To this day I am always in jaw dropping angst on how poorly, if any, so many people do not do minimal, if any, self care. Every time I meet with a woman who has a cancer diagnosis her level of self love, self care is extremely low.  For the sake of this conversation, let us begin with  respectful acknowledgement to the mother of emotional seeds and affirmations for illnesses; Louise Hay. I believe what I see is a more general sense of the lack/emptiness which is the focus of the misalignment which has caused labels to grow and come to tangible fruition in ones physical container.

I am staggered by the level in which any one can think so low of themselves that they put everyone else before them. When we realize we are all God in form, that we respect, value and honor life; how can we not love our selves? 

If you place anything before love, it will show itself to you. 

Client; two labels of cancer. First session:  In pain. Wants pain to go away. Feels awful. Fear. 

I am tired. Why am I so tired.


Yes, I cannot do what I use to do. I get too tired. 

What do you do when you are tired?

I don’t know.

Do you rest?


Why not?

No time. I guess I walk the dog sometimes.  But between the house, family parties and going back and forth to the hospital and appointments there is no time. 

I know you have a lovely yard and live in a peaceful neighborhood. Next time you feel too much pain, I would like you to stop, sit in your yard and simply look. Gaze. Feel appreciation. Then, also please consider taking a nap, a rest. Just for a few minutes. The pain is telling, rather asking you, to stop. Will you do that? 

Next session: 

How was your week?

Good. I did it. I stopped and sat in a lounge chair in the yard.

How did it feel?

(Mumble) The pain went away.

The women I have met who have cancer diagnosis all have had one thing in common; low, if any, quality of quality self care. (In a more extensive writing we would now speak of doing for others and ignoring self, giving up dreams, ignoring ones own needs, thinking one can give from an empty well, playing the martyr, having poor boundaries, being emotionally attached, reacting rather than responding, thinking one has to fix everything, paying attention to everyone else and ignoring ones own issues……)

Loving self care does not have to be expensive spa days, or vacations. I am actually referring to daily/weekly self care – at the VERY LEAST. 

  • waking up early to sit and enjoy coffee or tea while listening to the birds, give yourself 5 minutes by yourself.
  • taking a walk
  • journaling
  • time of devotion
  • feeding yourself beautiful, healthy foods (not putting junk food in your temple)
  • resting, even for a few minutes
  • speaking kindly, watching your words which come from your mouth
  • no self trash talk
  • reading a daily word of positive empowerment
  • spending time with a friend
  • taking a yoga class
  • going to a work shop – even a one time evening one
  • finding a spiritual community to fill your well
  • listening to positive videos, meditations, talks on the computer (SO-MANY CHOICES!)
  • watch a funny movie
  • sit by a body of water, and gaze
  • making choices which allow YOU to be nurtured too.

Basically, loving self care means; do not go against yourself. Whenever we do not feel good, (in any form: anger, tears, hurt, etc) it is because our thoughts are against our true selves, the highest level of our being.

I love you,






3d, 4d, 5d perceptions

Here is some encapsulated information regarding defining 3d, 4d and 5d for those who are curious. 

Living in 5d is extremely different than 3d – by now you may have heard references made to one or other, or even 4d or other. Each of these labels are to intention a level, a state, of a person’s conscious awareness of universal existence as in the non physical realm of life. Some call this a way to measure ones journey of enlightenment, of waking up.

In 3d one see’s life from a very linear perspective. This is common. This is often rigid, it has no allowance of other. People refer to this as the realm of duality beliefs. It is a perspective of right and wrong, anger, going against. Many illness’ are birthed through a 3d mentality. Ego and victim hood are words used often here. A person in this state does not yet realize one is a creator, nor many times, do they want to, for that speaks of taking responsibility for ones life. Life happens TO a 3d mentality. There is no sense of soul, of spirit, of the magic &  joy of life. There is death, there is fear, there is a need to prevent, protect, control, conquer and fight. In this perception of life, one clings to others, believes in ownership, reacts rather than responds. One does not yet have a sense of unconditional love, of living with joy, of thriving; rather than surviving.

In 5d+ one is in flow, there is no resistance, no going against, only for. One’s heart center is open, one has understanding of Universal law, the God Code and how life works. An awareness of Oneness, of Love Consciousness. Here, there is an understanding of choice. Here, one walks through taking 100 % responsibility for their experiences and is the creator of their lives. Here, one listens for inner guidance. There is only the sacred yes here. Choice is the key. There is a deep understanding that each being is not only a reflection of oneself, but also a God seed. There is the understanding that we each are thriving and living, that life is eternal. There is a fully embodied understanding of; as I think, I AM. In 5d one is knowing of the Divine life force in all things, that energy is all that is, that the Divine Architect has created an incredibly beautiful & magnificent Universe of which we are part. There is an honoring here, a respect of LIFE Itself. Language looses its value, for one is feeling their way along the journey here on earth. It is difficult to have conversation with 3d people, the cavern is vast. There is joy, no blame. There is here, hardly a response, for all is and accepted. There is an understanding that each is always choosing, and the joy of life is just that. There is the knowing that as we seek, we find and as we engage we become. There is an understanding of yin/yang, dark/light – and a deep respect for the Divine Architects Design. There is to be a playfulness here, a childlike energy. The + to 5d is all attributes simply become more and more as one increases in their awareness and surrender to God, the Divine Architect. Intuition, soul communion, OOB’s, and more are a way of life. Seeing through ones 3rd eye, hearing what others cannot. Communication is an entirely different level from 3d. 

4d is the bridge. A bit of this still some of that. A light goes on now and again. One wants to understand but does not yet embody. ‘Facts’ still play a role, intuition is being tested. Many empaths are in 4d perception, for at first it is painful to feel all, prior to realizing the gift of divine choice and creating healthy, respectful boundaries. In 5d+ ones boundaries are seated in a strong foundation of faith & universal law. 

Perhaps next will be life beyond 5d?………..where I believe the magic truly happens. 

with love, Deborah

Claim Your Day!

Today I am very excited for everyone! Today I KNOW you have the power within you to change your life right now. I know that your word is everything. 

What are you claiming? What are you speaking? What story are you telling? What words are coming from your mouth? If you journal, what are writing about? 

I want you to know, that every single word you speak is a seed to that story. A seed grows. This is NOT a complex law. Actually, could it be any simpler? 

I LOVE intending my day. I LOVE segment intending – meaning, that like chapters in a book, we have various segments of our day, and speaking them into positive outcomes & experiences is utter joy. It is incredible to be present, to claim ones day and then feel & watch it unfold into the experiences. 

I am deeply grateful to realize this law, this Divine set up of what power-filled beings we are; creating, creating, creating. 

PLEASE hear me; YOU are creating! YOU! When you realize this formidable law of the Divine Matrix & then use it, apply; everything changes

You no longer are complaining, in fear, worrying, anxious, waiting to see what anyone else says or does! Imagine that. 

The further down the rabbit hole you are in this moment, the wider you want to caste your word. “I will have a decent day.” – Pretty general, not too far a range for you to connect with.

If you have been aware for a while, you have some foundation built up and can be more specific, like my day yesterday: “Today I am taking a day for myself. Phone off, away from home & office. I am going to go to Peterborough, shopping – to all the antique shops I have never gone into, (because, my husband will only go into so many with me). I will have a really enjoyable day, meeting lovely people, finding the bargains I want, a new angel for our garden, things on sale! Everything will be great prices, very affordable. I will have lovely conversation with people, enjoy a delicious lunch and enjoy being by myself. I love this day, the weather is amazing, the air is clear, this day I am so grateful”.  – and yes, it was all this and more. At each turn I was in palpable amazement. The first store I stopped at had a garden angel right in front, with a bird bath for half price! (I have wanted both and here they were all in one! Yikes!!! ) I entered the shop and strolled, first seeing an item I had been wanting for a year!!!! It was the perfect color for what I was wearing and I walked out the shop with it on! The sales woman was lovely and amazed how it went with my outfit. What else I loved about this shop was that they had among the very pretty items, a reproduction red pick up truck. Interesting for me, I loved my red Ford Ranger for 18 years and miss it since I bought another vehicle. I just starred at this….in among very feminine light airy items, was this red pick up truck for sale! I picked it up, in awe. (Another law, once you open to good, it can ALL flood in!) Soaking in the creation of this perfection. Then she voluntarily stated, you know where you should have lunch?…and directed me. I then went to the second stop and once again, what my husband calls a Deborah store; antiques, old things, pretty things, birds, plants and more pretty things. Rabbits, bunnies, birds; oh my! Old windows, reclaimed wood, lots of garden benches (wishing I had my truck so I could fill it up!)  – without any doubt, I was certainly in my physical element.

I did not buy the angel and bird bath, something said wait till you are on your way home, be sure. 

My day continued. Snatching up small marvelous items for my personal joy! I went to the lunch place suggested to me. A woman was standing by the checkout  and it felt like she knew the place, I asked where a menu was and then she and this other woman who came out of the ether and walked me through – helping me with such joy, making suggestions of food, how good all was! So many lovely conversations with strangers! 

As I got out of my car at one parking lot I heard humming and looked up and this woman, late 70’s, early 80’s was walking to her car…as I went by I mentioned  her humming was a happy sound; You heard that!? A bit embarrassed, but very happy, we smiled joy at one another.

In my way home I went by the first shop again, sat in parking lot, looking at the garden angel for sale with the birdbath and said to myself; no, that is a cherub, not an angel. I want wings, not cupids. I left. A bargain is only a good bargain if you love it.

No more than 50 feet from that parking lot, I turned a corner – another antique shop, although closed,  I drove into the driveway to check the hours on the door and there she was. A large, statuesque outdoor angel with wings.  Thank you Universe! 

I have emailed the shop inquiring if it is for sale and the price. I am still basking in the joy of my intentions of yesterday, to such a degree, I hope to never NOT start my day or any experience in the future, without intending, claiming, stating! 

With that said, I am off to do just that.

with love, Deborah



Self – Healing

In order to feel better, to live a more joyful, present and conscious life, we must be willing to make time for our own healing; not excuses.  

People are very, very good at justifying – at giving excuses why there is no time, or why they are not able, or why they cannot right now. 

I realize they are simply not ready, yet. And, in heart truth, we all ‘get there’ – yet on the very human level, when I hear excuses, especially twice in a row from people changing appointments, missing appointments or other…….this is what i really want to say:

“You will only heal when you are as willing to give yourself the time, as I am to give you mine. When you stop making excuses, rather than giving a reason. We Spirit birthed humans are so very powerful, that when we set our minds on anything; it is so – and when you insist on making excuses, my mind & heart want to remind you, when you are willing, you will be ready, and hopefully I will be here – if i am not, someone else will be. I offer much to my beloveds, but only what you are willing to see, will you receive. I am here in prayer with you, here in heart connection with you, here showing up with all that i can possible offer you in my time you set aside – if you would only give your self part of the Love I give you, you could heal in a moment, in a breath. God Loves & adores you beyond your self induced boundaries, beyond your stories, your excuses, your lies. We all tell lies Beloved. We tell ourselves; I cannot, or I do not have, or it is too hard, or when I was five, or because i once did this, or because i have this type of personality, or this history….it can go on and on. …………………………”

As a child I once was told – ‘when we take one step towards God, He takes ten towards us.’ Such a magnificent grouping of words! Think about it – one moment of kindness and it is multiplied! One moment of self love and it is magnified! One breath of peace and the peace within my being is exalted! Everything is about MORE. The Divine architect created a YES universe, YES means MORE, in addition to, multiplied, made more of, increased!

Are you willing to love yourself as much as you love others? Are you willing to give yourself as much time as you give others? Are you willing to make time for just yourself? If not, the truth is, you will be staying right where you are, wherever that may be, and that is your choice.

I love you, Deborah