I have been publicly offering my gifts since 1992, when I opened an art gallery, (which even unbeknownst to my own intentions!) was my first healing center. In the first 6 months I did not sell any art, but, people came, and came and kept coming back….and sitting and talking and staying. After I took my first ‘official’ course on healing, a small space was created in the back of the 1000′ sq. ft. space, and my ministry of healing was born until it took over the entire space. That gallery was a beautiful, power-filled bridge to myself and for many others.
Since first seeing clients in 1992, I have an ongoing list of metaphysical/spiritual seeds which are the core of many illnesses. Another words, what is the seed, the original seed of our mental/emotional/physical non-alignments, another-words, what got me out of balance in the first place?
To this day I am always in jaw dropping angst on how poorly, if any, so many people do not do minimal, if any, self care. Every time I meet with a woman who has a cancer diagnosis her level of self love, self care is extremely low. For the sake of this conversation, let us begin with respectful acknowledgement to the mother of emotional seeds and affirmations for illnesses; Louise Hay. I believe what I see is a more general sense of the lack/emptiness which is the focus of the misalignment which has caused labels to grow and come to tangible fruition in ones physical container.
I am staggered by the level in which any one can think so low of themselves that they put everyone else before them. When we realize we are all God in form, that we respect, value and honor life; how can we not love our selves?
If you place anything before love, it will show itself to you.
Client; two labels of cancer. First session: In pain. Wants pain to go away. Feels awful. Fear.
I am tired. Why am I so tired.
Yes, I cannot do what I use to do. I get too tired.
What do you do when you are tired?
I don’t know.
Do you rest?
No time. I guess I walk the dog sometimes. But between the house, family parties and going back and forth to the hospital and appointments there is no time.
I know you have a lovely yard and live in a peaceful neighborhood. Next time you feel too much pain, I would like you to stop, sit in your yard and simply look. Gaze. Feel appreciation. Then, also please consider taking a nap, a rest. Just for a few minutes. The pain is telling, rather asking you, to stop. Will you do that?
How was your week?
Good. I did it. I stopped and sat in a lounge chair in the yard.
How did it feel?
(Mumble) The pain went away.
The women I have met who have cancer diagnosis all have had one thing in common; low, if any, quality of quality self care. (In a more extensive writing we would now speak of doing for others and ignoring self, giving up dreams, ignoring ones own needs, thinking one can give from an empty well, playing the martyr, having poor boundaries, being emotionally attached, reacting rather than responding, thinking one has to fix everything, paying attention to everyone else and ignoring ones own issues……)
Loving self care does not have to be expensive spa days, or vacations. I am actually referring to daily/weekly self care – at the VERY LEAST.
- waking up early to sit and enjoy coffee or tea while listening to the birds, give yourself 5 minutes by yourself.
- taking a walk
- time of devotion
- feeding yourself beautiful, healthy foods (not putting junk food in your temple)
- resting, even for a few minutes
- speaking kindly, watching your words which come from your mouth
- no self trash talk
- reading a daily word of positive empowerment
- spending time with a friend
- taking a yoga class
- going to a work shop – even a one time evening one
- finding a spiritual community to fill your well
- listening to positive videos, meditations, talks on the computer (SO-MANY CHOICES!)
- watch a funny movie
- sit by a body of water, and gaze
- making choices which allow YOU to be nurtured too.
Basically, loving self care means; do not go against yourself. Whenever we do not feel good, (in any form: anger, tears, hurt, etc) it is because our thoughts are against our true selves, the highest level of our being.
I love you,