What is it that so many are reaching for? What does it look like? Feel like? How does it work? And the on going quest – how does one get there?
Sometimes I imagine creating a book of step by step moments to awakening. It is often said, we each have what we need already inside of us, if we teach this, and I do – how do we get it out, how do you get it out? If it is inside of me already, where the heck is it? Why am I so unhappy? Why do things not work out for me? Why am I so miserable?
I have been offering assistance; as a healer, counselor, energy practitioner, minister – to others for almost thirty years – and still, I meet up with people who believe they cannot get there, the illusive there – that place of happiness. It is my observance, that the people who are ‘stuck’ all have two commonalities and in that, all are given the same guidance – every man, woman, child, rich, poor, educated, not educated – the universal laws have no boundaries, no favorites and no preferences.
- You have to be willing; to change, to be happy, to feel better, to look in a different direction.
Willingness is a letting go of what is, for the possibility of what can be. It is the sheer openness to un-cling from what was or is, in order to allow what can be to even be considered. The poor mans hands are clenched. Open to receive.
The enemies of this idea of willingness are intellect/ego and the word ‘hard’. The intellect may include what you have always done, what you were taught, what you studied, what you see before you, what others tell you, what your mind believes to be so, right, factual and correct. The word hard is heard many times in my line of work. From everyone; ‘but Deborah, it is so hard.’ (As if that is reason enough to not do my suggestions. Do you want to feel better or not?) And then, because an idea is instantly labeled difficult by your ego mind, you recede from it on all levels and use the term that something is too hard as an excuse to not do the work, to not look to another direction, to not let go.
We only hold on because we do not believe in ‘other’. Other answers, other happiness, other ways to see, others ways to be. People hold onto relationships with anything because they believe that it is the only relationship they can have with whatever it is and if they let go – then what? People hold on because they do not trust in God. People hold on because they do not trust the universe to provide other. People hold on because they think they have to know exactly how to be in charge, how to make something work, how to force something to happen. People hold on because they fear, due to lack of faith, and and the unknown is too challenging for the human need to control. (“Yes, I want to feel better, but I want to feel better MY WAY. If I hold on enough, things will go back to the way it was.” )
2. You have to WANT to be happy.
This means, you have to value happiness and feeling good over/MORE THAN getting your own way, or having that specific relationship back, or having that thing your want. It means simply experiencing joy. This means you are willing to consider there is joy in the universe outside the strict parameters you are holding/clinging to.
There are SO many tools one can use in the comfort of their own life to find their way out of the paper bag if they are willing.
- a journal of things you like – each day, make note. No boundaries; the sky, it stopped raining, a cloud, food, an attractive person gets your attention, a funny scene, a smile, a nod from a stranger, the shape of a car, a flower, the sunshine, trees. ANYTHING.
- watching or listening to anything positive on computers or podcasts, reading or conversations. Hundreds of spiritual teachers have grand formats in sharing their offerings. Find one. (Abraham-Hicks. Mooji.)
- sit and listen to beautiful music. breathe. for a few minutes each day.
- look for things to appreciate
- there are SO many books to choose from, just make up your mind to read one, to look in a different direction.
The fact is, unless one is willing, nothing is going to change. Life is done through us according to our faith. What ever you pay attention to grows, you get more of it – what are you paying attention to?
with great love,