cropped-lightsky.jpgdeath; from my perception

death & dying, one of my favorite subjects to share about. i find there is no more intimate space & time in our humanness than to be with another, when they are leaving their body and going home. in the midst of when many are fearful, i  am most at home, with my heart wide open, over flowing with love and my joy for another at its height. let me tell you why.

  • combining all my experiences i have had in this realm and others concerning dying, i know their is none. the body does turn to ash, but our being-ness, our souls, our isness; is eternal. 
  • i have witnessed souls leave their physical containers. for me, they appear as a grey mass of energy.
  • i have witnessed the final breath of many, taken AFTER the soul exits the body, as it is the final mechanical bodily response. 
  • i have sat with bodies post ‘death’, and when you do this, you KNOW the person who you knew is no longer present, even though their body is.
  • i know from my own experience, there is an ‘other side’, an ‘other realm’, a ‘heaven’.
  • i have had and continue to have conversations, sightings and messages from those who have ‘died’. for me, this can be part of my everyday – their is no veil between realities.

one of my most joyful sharing moments is to help to educate others, so the fear stigma of a loved one dying is removed from their belief system as well as what i call – ‘dying etiquette’.

on the top of my dying etiquette list is, when you are visiting a loved one who is leaving their body, making their transition, PLEASE know, they can hear every word you say in their presence.

  • do not speak as if they are not in the room.
  • do not use harsh language or tell negative stories.
  • do not ignore them.
  • do not speak loudly.
  • do not argue.
  • do not  whisper secretly in the corner of their room.
  • be the most respectful you have ever been in your entire life.

i believe  being with a loved one at the time of their transition is a sacred and holy event. if you are fortunate enough to be part of ones inner circle, know this is for THEM. your relationship has eternally connected you together and you are here to support them in the purest love possible.  

no fear in the room, the house or other. do not bring your fear. our souls know no fear. how many times have you heard; ‘she died the one hour i left to go home to shower! i had been their every night & day for a week, and i MISSED it!’ No, you did not miss it, it was however, the only time the soul had that was a present and most loving state in the room so it could exit the body. 

the dying process is the soul separating from the ego. the ego loves fear. when one is with another who is leaving their body, and the guest is afraid for them, or does not want them to die, or thinks this experience is a bad thing, or going on and on in a morbid way about how much they will miss them; these emotions and feelings make it easier for the ego to stay and most difficult for the soul to detach.

dying, leaving ones body, is a very similar experience for the soul as being born is. as the human gestation period is nine months, there also can be a gestation period for one to make their transition to the other realm. very often we will see this in the elderly, or one with a lengthy illness, or one under hospice care. a pregnant woman will know when their baby’s soul is present, they FEEL it…then one day, they do not feel anything at all. when one does not feel a connection to their child, the soul is traveling, going home, then it drops back in the human form developing…..’getting use to things’. the same is true when we ‘die’. our souls leave for while, we may sleep for many hours, or be in a non communicative state – our soul, that which we are, is traveling home, then, it will come back and literally drop in. have you ever sat with a ‘dying’ beloved and witnessed the jerking awakening? the soul literally drops back in. the slow long deaths which those who are left behind here on earth may call painful and terrible to see; are actually very  nice for the soul. it gives our true essence time to get use to the transition from being in human form. 

that being said, when there is a sudden death, or self inflicted death, or arduous dying process or we have lived a very angry and unloving (unable to give or receive)  life; we first spend time in what i call a hospital for the soul, before making our complete transition home. at this time, we are surrounded by our non-physical beloveds, who support our full healing process to remembering our innate divinity.

you will also see, if you are able to witness, one transitions home as they lived here on earth: 

  • i have witnessed the man who only wanted to help others, who lived a life out of joy of loving life, not out of fear, who appeared in perfect health, have a surprise aneurysm on his front porch one morning. one moment here, one moment home.
  • i have witnessed many fearful people have difficulty leaving their bodies. understandable, with no comprehension of what is next, the letting go and letting God concept is foreign to them.
  • i have witnessed a very fearful elderly person take years of different illnesses, in and out of hospitals. we finally had the chance to talk about his fears, he left shortly afterwards.
  • i have witnessed people who lived lives of abuse of others, die in what many would call a tragic death.
  • i have witnessed very controlling people have challenging processes, not able to let go.

at a point, the soul wants to leave the body.  but this is never out of fear – it is always out of love. 

it is very important to have open talks with your spouses or loved ones concerning your wishes.

it is best to not have too many people around. if dying at home, a home filled with love and ordinary day to day action, but not too many people in the room at one time. 

create an atmosphere of peace. perhaps music they loved. no tv, like too many people in the room,  it is distracting and confusing. remember, during a dying process a person is hypersensitive. you will find touching them may be uncomfortable for them. (very often the soul is trying to leave and one holds a hand and it pulls the soul back in) do not feel like someone has to be with them every moment. it is okay. they have hard work to do, dying takes a lot of energy. 

their animals will want to be with them.

i was with a beloved at her dying process. her son sat on one side of her bed, i the other. i asked her why she still had her glasses still on, “Deborah, i don’t want to miss anything.” 

it is my most loving intention this writing will reach those who can feel supported by these words. 

i love you, RevDeb

head shot looking down Healer, Master Energy Practitioner, Teacher & Member of the Clergy

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Sometimes i awake in the midst of the night thinking……how can there be anything more to say? 

I do not know about you, but my FB page is a stream of spiritual messages from here, there & everywhere. Lovely. Encouraging. Uplifting. Compassionate. Helpful. Positive. I have been consciously & intentionally journeying this path of  seeking for near 40  years – looking under every rock, reading hundreds of books, seeking churches and communities to fill me up. I have been a student, a teacher, a guide & the one guided. So many rolls and experiences have been touched. Now, i sit back and observe – we are and they all are; saying the same thing. We are beginning to be repetitive monkeys. 

We know we must be loving. We know kindness rules. We know tolerance is necessary for a peaceful world. We know our thoughts become things. We know emotions are at the root of all illness. We know we can turn our heart from looking at what we do not want to what we want. At this point, there are probably MORE gurus & spiritual teachers than there are students. Is there anything new to be spoken, written, explored?

Yes, you.

Since each one of us are individual souls with our own unique energies birthed through our own experiences, stories & journey;  it is our own unique offering which is left – and there you have it; more teachers & gurus than students. The spark of this is; be your own. Be your own teacher. You are your own teacher. Bring yourself back to your self. 

The one thing all teachers have in common is their individuality – the way they present, their alignment. It is expressed in their stance, their voice, the words they choose. We may all be repeating monkeys, BUT, an excellent spiritual guide, i believe, will always bring you back to yourself.  YOU; are your own very best teacher.

Perhaps this is where we are in our collective journey – each one back to themselves; turning inside out, revealing and reveling in their own word, actions and ideas. …and simply offering it up to the world. Each soul the teacher, each soul the student, each soul the guru, each soul the guide. Can you sit with this and feel it?  It is immensely simple.

Everyone we encounter, no matter their label in our play called this incarnation, is in our lives to support us to turn into our selves – and see. Be a voyeur of your mind, your own thoughts, your own instincts, your own choices, your own reasons, your own replenishment, your own beingness. 

In a Sunday service once, some 15 or so years ago when i was in active church ministry i stated that i thought our goal was to get naked. I went onto explain; after ah-has, oh’s, laughter and quizzical expressions – i believe our goal, or our spiritual journey  could be all about being so okay with ourselves, that we walk around emotionally naked, exposed – with no guilt, shame or lies to hide us. That our goal, just may be, might be, to grow into such loving and awake beings; that we turn ourselves inside out for everyone to see. OR the turning inside out is an EFFECT of …no fear, no lack; so full up with love, forgiveness and joy – it is all that is left to be. 

And then, what more would there be to say?

with much love, RevDeb

head shot looking downDeborah Evans Hogan

– Healer, Master Energy Practitioner, Teacher & Member of the Clergy

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The other day I read a quote ; ‘we must pay more attention to our mental health’. I know the circumstances from which this sentence came, the experience the person had recently had which created this thought in his mind. Yes, we must. BUT…………………………..

When we give ourselves a strong spiritual understanding, touchstone, foundation – our chances of being healthy in every aspect of our lives is increased a thousandth fold.

Stating we have mental health, physical health, emotional health; separate. I believe beyond a minuscule speck of doubt; our foundation has to be our spiritual health. Without an embodied spiritual faith and understanding in the Laws of the Universe – we rock and roll through life, depending/looking to/on separateness rather than our wholeness. When we see and know ourselves to be created from the Creator, The Divine Architect, made in Its perfection, we see a whole; not a body, a mind, emotions….parts and pieces.

One of Deepak Chopra’s earliest books was on spiritual answers for any problem, then Wayne Dyer wrote  There is a Spiritual Solution to every problem.

What does this look like? It looks like this: Children are born into families who are healthy, loving and stable – because the parents have done their work, as i call it. They have stepped up to faith in the non-physical, taken 100 % responsibility for their choices, there are no more lies, blame, guilt, shame, (knowing they make a very unstable foundation!) – have forgiven all that needs forgiving, have stepped from victim to empowered, have healthy boundaries and know love is all that matters. The parents know kindness, they know diversity is wholeness, they embody tolerance, and a collective awareness of the Universal Whole. They are healthy in all aspects of their lives; and when a life experience comes along – they seek within for guidance.

When we know this, we know love. Not a conditional love based on if you are doing what i want, but a love which allows for expression, growth and joy. A love which trusts God, the Creator, whatever your name is for the Isness of that which we are.

When we are taught /shown to seek internally, to become aware of our eternal connection to the Creator – we are given a foundation of our wholeness. When we have been brought up to believe we have separateness within us, we seek externally and many times, never find an answer; hence, human pain expressed as inhuman actions to others. Wholeness is an awareness of our humanity, our collective.

We are witnessing much pain in the world now, the collective pain, ancestral and worldly is being exposed, due to the collective of Love which has risen.  In seeking an understanding, we must honor spiritual truths, and go within. We must, each day, consistently reconnect our personal awareness of our Divine Isness and feed our humanness of this truth – in order to not be swept up in the rock and roll of separate sighted humanness. We  remind ourselves of our wholeness, we recognize in our human skin we are separate bodies journeying for individual greater purpose – and in our Isness we are specks of a Divine, non physical whole.

head shot looking down Rev. Deborah Evans Hogan

Healer, Master Energy Practitioner, Teacher & Member of the Clergy





Creating. We are each always doing this. Through our thinking, expressing, looking at, engaging with, dreaming about, talking about, aligning with, desiring, praying…….each moment; creating. Our thoughts, when dwelled upon and given life, become our beliefs….and our beliefs attain an energetic level within our cellular beingness; creating, being given life, manifesting.

Our responsibility in this Divine Transaction  is: are you creating from fear or love? Think about it.

Desiring anything from fear holds no weight. It will dissolve of its own lack of substance. Such a desire will blow over in too heavy a wind, it will melt in too much passion and dissolve when met with greater strength. 

Any desire can be birthed from either nest; love or fear. 

Take for example a relationship – do you want a relationship out of love? Out of sharing, creating together, supporting one another, seeing each others dreams come into reality? Or do you want a relationship from lack? Do you want someone else to make you happy – or do you want to share the joy you already know you are? Do you desire a relationship because you feel like you are not enough? As is the old story – do you want another to ‘complete you’? 

Let me tell you a secret – you are already complete. Seek another whole, not another half.

Too many marry because  the thought is, they need me. Where does that direct the relationship? One in that thinking will always see their ‘partner’ as less than, not fulfilled, needy. Think about it.

As humans we may want something in our lives – but do we want it because we realize we are already it and we wish to see it manifested through our alignment???? OR do we want it because we feel it has to be given to us & we are empty without it?  

Millions of us want peace – but do we want peace out of fear of war OR do we want peace from a knowing within us that PEACE is our natural state and we BELIEVE in it as a possibility? Do we believe in PEACE as a state of being OR do we believe more in  the fear of what insanity (misalignment) can do to mankind? 

Are you saying ‘war is this and that? OR are you aligning with, PEACE is a possibility, I believe in the concept that man can live in putting kindness to humanity first in their lives….I am excited to see our work in peace, IN LEADERS sharing, in men & women truly leading from fairness to all. I am excited to see the ego dissolved; and the heart reigning.’

Are you making choices out of attachment? Out of lack? Out of dissatisfaction? OR from JOY? 

In supporting a client to seek new employment, our conversation always goes back to: what do you WANT to do, what lights your fire, what moves you? And the left brain answer is always; i was trained to do this. The left brain cannot see beyond the label on the box. The left brain does not know there is CHOICE, creation, another way to SEE. 

Left/Right Brain Conversation

R) Are you cold?

L) The thermostat says 53.

R) I asked if you are cold.

L) The thermostat says 53, it is cold.

R) I asked if you are FEELING cold…..

L). The thermostat says 53………….

and on & on we go……….

Even in our daily life, are you making choices out of fear or love? Too many make healthy choices from fear, other than from a positive attitude. Too many are at a subliminal war within them selves, not recognizing their inner higher power, not yet aligned with  the strength from which we are made of and from. 

When we stop recognizing fears or negaitivty and begin to see our hearts, our souls, our Highest & most magnificent Light, the Light of Infinite Possibilities; “YES, you can” will take place. Authenticity will take place.  Creating from internal awareness & possibility takes place! 

Shared with Love.

head shot looking downDeborah Evans Hogan

Healer, Master Energy Practitioner, Teacher, Member of the Clergy.